Day 4 – The Power of Persistence
Welcome to Day 4 of “The Power of Success” Online Coaching Program.
I want to start today by celebrating – well done, you’ve reached past the halfway point of the coaching program!
Aren’t our minds amazing? Only a few days ago many of you would have found ‘focus’ a challenge. Now you are focused, enjoying it and knowing how to keep yourself on track despite distractions around you. This week there’s a measured jump in the intensity… because we’re looking at those distractions, at the down sides. It’s time to push you out of your comfort zone more, to check on complacency levels and see who’s driving the journey. And you can cope because your mind is ready.
So, some ‘get real’ questions:
- Are you really being master of your self, your power, your success?
- Are you more in control of how you feel, what you say, the world you notice around you?
- Are you in control of your life or is it driving you?
- How are you coping emotionally and physically – anyone been sick yet?
- Have you wanted to chuck it all in?
If so, that’s ok – acknowledge it; nurture and empower yourself; and let’s start again WITH…
The Power of PERSISTENCE – How to create mental toughness to bounce back from rejection, failure or setbacks and prevent burnout.
When the going gets tough, the tough get UP and get GOING!
Humans act and feel not according to what things are really like, but according to the image our mind holds of what they are like – our perception. We have certain mental images of ourselves, our world, and the people around us. And we behave as though these images were the truth, the reality, rather than the things they represent.
The way we feel from moment to moment is a direct physical reaction by the body to the pictures and sounds we make in our mind. We call these ‘internal representations’. The way we express these feelings of our internal representations is commonly known as emotion.
And here’s the trick… as we acknowledge our situation, temper our reactions to avoid ‘emotional’ outbursts, we make proactive, solution focused choices. Master our ‘emotions’ and we initiate our potential and ignite the natural born Champion within.
Easy when things are going well, but what about when ‘it’ hits the fan? How do we master our emotions whilst experiencing the ‘speed bumps’ in life that slow us down? Or those ‘character building’ times that push us to fall apart? What would it feel like to not be at the mercy of circumstances or others we emotionally feel ‘make me feel’ a particular way?
By taking responsibility for your feelings, your emotions, your reactions – who is the one who creates them after all? It’s your bus you are driving – this is your power. No one can ‘make you feel’ a certain way, whether happy or sad – you do it to yourself. So never take insults or compliments to heart, or if you feel yourself in a situation that is beyond your control and you feel like you’ll be knocked down any moment – take a moment to grab your wheel. Choose positive reactions over emotional reactions in any situation.
Remember – only you can fully influence the pictures in your mind, the things you say to yourself (and how you say them) and the way you use your body – create your own Confidence Scripts. You can now choose how you want to feel in any situation.
There are no disappointments in life, just new learning experiences….
if it is a mistake and you learn something then you’ve never lost.
Nothing takes the wind out of your sails more quickly than a few critical comments made by others. And, as we know, the worst critic you will ever encounter is the one who lives inside your own mind. I’ve told you once and I’m telling you again – the way you talk to yourself has a profound impact on your emotional state and your long term wellbeing!
So let’s re-live a ‘life-challenge learning experience’ and see how you feel. Remember a time when you made a mistake… Recall how you spoke to yourself and how that made you feel…
- Do you feel self critical or guilty? Is the voice angry, derogatory, sarcastic?
- What words are you using to yourself – negative, swearing, dismissive?
- What does it sound like – aggressive, blunt, abrupt?
- How long did it take you to emotionally come to terms with yourself – 2 mins, 2 hours, 2 days, 2 weeks or can you still feel it now?
Many people believe because there’s a voice inside their head they must then listen to it. But criticism is meant to be constructive! If your inner voice is not supporting you then the criticism is doing more harm than good.
“Our subconscious minds have no sense of humour, play no jokes and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.”
To stop you from making the same mistakes and help you do things better, it’s imperative to ingrain a positive critical voice – “the inner critic”. Remember your mind, your unconscious/ subconscious is trained to be positive. So whatever you tell it – it believes, whether positive or negative, supportive or critical.
Today pay particular attention to how you talk to yourself when things get tough. Pay particular attention to the tone of your inner voice and the content of the message. Things do happen to us we don’t like. Some things are beyond our control and, no, we cannot control everything that happens to us – but what we can control is HOW WE REACT TO IT.
The point is this: You must have a choice. You are in control. Who’s driving your bus?
As a bonus today – I have attached a short story on How to Get Unstuck to read when you have completed your workout.
You are constantly letting other people know
how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.
How do I, in my lowest of lows, create my highest of highs?***********
Let’s get you back on track – creating Mental Toughness to persevere and achieve Gold Medal moment after Gold Medal Moment in your life.
Why not imagine yourself successful, even when you ‘feel’ at your lowest?
To build your power this week, create a Champion Mindset that takes ownership and responsibility for events and situations, both the good and the bad so we can cruise the bus over those speed bumps in life.
Read through the techniques and print off first to familiarise with each step, then go for it!
Pay attention this week to the inner critic voice.
1- Remember a time when you made a mistake and you harshly criticised yourself. What did you say to yourself?
Now ask yourself, “How could I say the same message in an encouraging way?” Step back into yourself at that time you made the mistake and give yourself the constructive criticism instead.
2 – The Optimisation Technique (Click Here): practicising this technique with every part of your life, or the key area that you wish to focus on, you will be amazed at how much better your decisions become and how much more productive you become at the same time.
3 – Stuff & Flush Jellyfish Negativity (Click Here): to interrupt and starve you of negativity and retrain yourself to be positive and utilise your Champion positivescripts
4 – Create a list of people / mentors and what they would say to you to reinforce your potential. Much like my Dad did and whose words of wisdom I choose to hear still today.
Words of Wisdom reinforcing your potential:
Remember: It is your birthright to be positive!
Final pep talk from Coach Shelley:
Yes, ‘__it’ happens! But what will you do with it now? Stay stuck in it so deep, eyes shut tight, holding your breath and never coming up for air? How can you learn from that emotional reaction?
That’s right! Use it to fertilise the roses, prune the emotion in the right places and appreciate that great things can grow from ‘it’!
Enough pep talk from me…. time to practice in your Champion Mindset gym. Have a great workout!
See you tomorrow …. where we work on the Champion muscle:
The Power of Inspiration.